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Brave and True: Navigating the Gap Between Desire and Action as an INFJ

“What you must fear the most is that when you want to do something that is in your soul, staying for them versus going for you will make you the most unhappy and will bring the worst out of everything.” - Gary Vee

I’ve been struggling a lot this year. When the calendar turned to January 1, 2023, I thought that this would be the year of change for me. We were finally past most of the covid BS and life was FINALLY going to get back to being normal again. I felt like something real was going to change, to be different. I thought about it every day, nearly all day long. This was THE YEAR.

As January turned to February and March somehow turned to July, I’ve gotten more and more discouraged. Nothing has changed. It’s the same ol same ol bullshit that I’ve dealt with for years. In fact, it’s actually worse than what it was before.

I’ve been pushing myself to do things that make me a bit uncomfortable, anything to break out of this maddening cycle. I found myself on top of one of the tallest buildings in Boston, looking at how small things really are and how big the world is.

Dear INFJs, we are the dreamers, the seekers of truth, and the holders of vast inner worlds. But what happens when we find ourselves suspended in the space between what we want and what we are willing to do? This tension can be agonizing, yet it holds within it the seeds of our growth and transformation. Let us gather our courage, for we are about to embark on a journey of self-discovery and alignment, as we bridge the gap between our desires and our actions.

1. Embrace Radical Honesty:

As INFJs, we possess a unique ability to see beyond the surface and connect deeply with our desires. To bridge the gap, we must first be radically honest with ourselves. Take the time to reflect on what you truly want, without judgment or compromise. Allow your dreams to rise to the surface, unfiltered and unapologetic. Acknowledge the gap as an opportunity for self-awareness, paving the way for intentional action.

2. Unravel the Fear:

Fear often lurks within the crevices of our hearts, whispering doubts and insecurities. Recognize that fear is a natural companion on our journey, but it need not be the driver of our choices. Examine the roots of your fears, understanding that they are often remnants of past experiences or societal expectations. Disentangle yourself from the grip of fear, recognizing that courage lies on the other side of the gap.

3. Cultivate Compassion for Yourself:

INFJs are notorious for their high standards and self-imposed pressure. As we navigate the gap, it is crucial to cultivate compassion for ourselves. Understand that growth takes time and that small steps can lead to profound change. Release the need for perfection and embrace the messy, beautiful process of becoming. Shower yourself with kindness and grace, acknowledging that even the smallest efforts are significant.

4. Find Support in Community:

Walking the path alone can be daunting, so seek solace and support in the company of fellow travelers. Connect with kindred spirits who understand the intricacies of your journey. Share your hopes, fears, and aspirations with those who uplift and encourage you. Together, we can bridge the gap, knowing that we are never truly alone on this transformative quest.

5. Take Inspired Action:

Now comes the time to move from intention to action. Start by breaking down your desires into manageable steps. Begin with small actions aligned with your values and aspirations. Celebrate each step taken, for they are building blocks that close the gap. Remember, brave INFJ, that your dreams are worthy of pursuit, and each courageous step brings you closer to their realization.

What we want and what we are willing to do

Dear INFJ, as we navigate the vast expanse between what we want and what we are willing to do, let us remember that our dreams hold immense power. Embrace the tension as an invitation to embrace our authentic selves and unleash our potential. With radical honesty, compassion, and the support of our community, we can bridge the gap and align our desires with intentional action. Trust the journey, for it is in this space that we emerge as our most vibrant, brave, and true selves.

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